When you’ve invested emotionally and financially in IVF treatment, it can hit hard when the treatment fails and doesn’t result in the pregnancy you have been longing for. Know that it’s absolutely normal to feel devastated, frustrated, angry and overwhelmed. We all go into the process knowing that IVF doesn’t always guarantee a baby, but it still hits so so hard when it doesn’t go to plan. After a failed IVF cycle, it’s crucial to prioritise your and your partner’s needs. Here are some things you can do to help you cope and move forward:
1. Give yourself time to grieve
Every failed cycle is a loss of the baby you have longed for. Feeling sad, angry, or disappointed is natural after a failed IVF cycle. Take the time you need to process your emotions and allow yourself to grieve. Don’t rush into another cycle until you’re emotionally ready.
2. Seek support
Don’t be afraid to reach out to family, friends, or a support group to share your feelings and receive encouragement. You can also consider talking to a therapist who specialises in infertility and can provide you with coping strategies and emotional support. You can also chat with us in the Hoopsy Fertility Community, we, and many of our members, have been exactly where you are and can offer support and understanding.
3. Review your treatment
Discuss your treatment with your doctor to see if any adjustments can be made to improve your chances of success. Ask questions you have about what went wrong and what can be done differently in the future so you know what your options are. According to the NHS, only 32% of women undergoing IVF treatment aged under 35 went on to have a successful pregnancy. For older women, the chances are, unfortunately, even lower.
4. Consider alternative treatments
If IVF isn’t working for you after several cycles, talk to your doctor about alternative treatments, such as intrauterine insemination (IUI) or donor eggs.. Many options are available, and your doctor can help you find the best fit for your needs.
5. Take care of your physical and emotional health
Eating a healthy diet, exercising regularly, and getting enough sleep can help improve your physical and emotional well-being. In addition, consider trying relaxation techniques such as yoga or meditation to reduce stress and anxiety.
6. Stay positive
While it may be easier said than done, try to stay positive and focus on the future. Surround yourself with people who support you and believe in your journey to parenthood.
7. Take a break
It’s okay to take a break from fertility treatments and focus on other aspects of your life. For example, plan a vacation, start a new hobby, or spend time with loved ones. Taking a break can help you recharge and refocus and gain perspective on how you want to move forward.
Remember, a failed IVF cycle is not a failure on your part. It’s a setback on your journey to parenthood, not the end. Many options are available to help you achieve your goal if you choose to. Be kind to yourself, take care of your emotional and physical health, and seek support when needed. You are not alone in this journey; with time, you will find a way forward. if you have suffered a failed IVF cycle and want to talk about it is a secure and supportive space, come and join the Hoopsy fertility community.